- Is most of your inner-dialogue negative?
- Is everyone else's grass greener than yours?
- Does your single status you feel unlovable or undesirable?
- Do perfectionistic tendencies make you feel like you're never good enough?
Oh, the lies we tell ourselves that feed into the self-deprecating stories that weaken our self-esteem and self-worth. Just last week I was giving myself an emotional beat-down for being a slacker and a procrastinator who will never be truly successful. I caught myself mid bitch-slap and decided to write down everything I had accomplished over the previous two weeks. Mind. Blown. I think productivity just might be my super-power! But there's still room to consider myself a failure, though, because I have been single for the past seven years following a really painful divorce. And as we quickly approach the holiday season, it's hard for even me, a bonafide Indie Girl, to avoid that twinge of "woe is me"; knowing I'll be spending the season alone. Again.
But what frustrates me most is that I'm keenly aware of my self-defeating tendencies. I am my own worst enemy. I know exactly where those gnawing "never good enough" thoughts stem from and the triggers that set them off. But I still end up becoming the victim of my own lies. So I'm committing to giving myself credit where credit is due. I'm applauding myself for making difficult life choices that lead to life lessons; relationships that teach me how to become vulnerable without weakening my integrity; and failed ideas that inspire more creativity and tenacity. And, while I'm at it, I'm gonna embrace my talents in the healing, teaching, and performing arts. I'm no longer waiting for external validation to feel smart, creative, talented, successful, beautiful, desirable, or lovable. All that nit-picking erodes my soul and hinders my personal evolution.
I'm changing my inner-dialogue to transform the way I experience my life; including the way I approach difficult choices, the way I engage in my relationships, and the way in which I pursue my dreams. I validate ME!
Indie Girl Diary: writing prompt
My need for external validation makes me feel __________.
Indie Girl-Talk: let's chat!
What's the recurring theme of your inner-dialogue? What are you going to tell yourself now?