- Have you given yourself credit for overcoming/managing the pain of a major loss or life change?
- When's the last time you expressed gratitude for your strength of character, resilience, or sense of integrity?
- Do you often downplay your own intelligence or success?
- When's the last time you acknowledged your hard-earned achievements?
This is the month of Thanksgiving so we've collectively nominated November as an auspicious time for expressing gratitude. We fill gratitude jars and gratitude journals as reminders of all that's good in our lives which is a really constructive way of increasing our self-awareness and gaining clarity on what we want more of. It also makes each experience and personal connection that much more meaningful when we pause to savor and appreciate the feelings they evoke. And when our mind remains in a space of gratitude, it helps us dwell in the possibility of our dreams with genuine optimism.
But when I think about my own gratitude, I notice that I tend to focus on the people, places, things, and experiences that add pleasure to my life. And while that's the exact point of gratitude, I realized that I rarely express gratitude for myself or for how far I've come since my divorce when all I could see at the time was loss, failure, and rejection. And when all I could feel was sadness, anger, and hurt. In fact, it seems like ages ago that dark emotions took residence in my body, mind, and spirit and effected the way I felt about myself and the way I engaged (or didn't) the world. I wasn't living. I was surviving on auto-pilot, looking forward to a glass of red wine at the end of the day as my reward for not crumbling to the point of disrepair. I felt unlovable, undesirable, ungrounded, and uncertain about the direction of my life. As a newly single, thirty-eight year old woman who no longer felt capable of trust, I remember struggling to figure out who I was, who I wanted to become and whether or not I'd ever be capable of falling in love again. And I felt robbed of the future I'd been building with my EX for eight years; never expecting that, one day, I'd have to start over from scratch - alone!
Seven years later, I'm so grateful for my resilience during that time of huge loss, major life change, and total instability. And I'm grateful for my ability to sit in the mire of my heavy emotions to do some serious self-reflection and hold myself accountable whenever needed. And I'm grateful for my ability to remain open to new adventures, including the possibility of loving and trusting someone new. And more importantly, I'm grateful for loving and trusting myself again.
Indie Girl Diary: writing prompt
I am amazed at how far I've come since __________ because __________.
Indie Girl-Talk: let's chat!
What are your greatest personal and professional achievements? Shout 'em out! You should be proud.