- Have you given up on love?
- Are you a fool for love?
- Have you become bitter by love?
- Is your heart open and ready to accept love?
After you've had your heart broken and it feels all tender and inflamed with single-itis, the last thing you wanna do is expose it to more trauma, right? Ultimately you want it to heal and regenerate its ability to love fiercely and wholeheartedly; knowing that raw vulnerability is what creates intimacy, depth and genuine connection with someone else. Because if you can't enter a relationship with an open heart, you end up stuck in the land of superficiality where your physical needs and your ego might get satisfied, but you miss out on that deep kind of soul connection that binds you on a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level. Not to say I think there's anything wrong with casual relationships; as long as they're not a substitute for healing your heart.
To me, post-divorce/breakup STRENGTH is doing whatever it takes to regain your sense of self, your worth and your ability to feel complete outside the context of a relationship. It's your ability to be honest about your thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors and assess how you might've contributed to the end of your relationship, instead of playing the blame game and wallowing in the role of bitter victim. Owning your shit and making conscious choices to evolve liberates you from fear. It enables you to recognize that, while an unhealthy relationship may be a reflection of your deep wounds, it doesn't have to define you or your future relationships. Instead, you're able to look at your relationships as opportunities for mutual growth, without being attached to the outcome. You're focused on being present, emotionally available, vulnerable and honest. And, even if the outcome turns out to be a painful one, you can still view that relationship as an opportunity for greater self-awareness and personal growth. Then once you've reclaimed your inner-strength and your heart feels whole again, loving someone with a powerful intensity doesn't feel foolish or like a potential threat to your heart. You're able to enter a relationship with clear intentions, a strong sense of integrity, and emotional intelligence. Yes, STRONG WOMEN LOVE FIERCELY!
Indie Girl Diary: writing prompt
My heart feels free to love fiercely when:
Indie Girl-Talk: let's chat!
How do you know when your heart is ready for a new relationship?