- How well do you really know yourself?
- How deeply have you explored past experiences to see how they've shaped you & your choices?
- What have you done to clear unresolved issues and relationships?
- What rituals do you have to expand your mind and develop new ways of thinking and behaving
Inner-work is a conscious effort to continually evolve into a better version of yourself and to create the most fulfilling and abundant life possible. So I'm constantly asking myself "What's that worth to you?", "How far are you willing to go to disempower your insecurities, mute the critical voice in your head and put a stop to negative patterns of behavior?", "How long are you willing to gaze into the mirror and celebrate your beauty rather than picking apart the flaws?" It's so easy to resist doing inner-work because it forces you to face all the stuff and feel all the feels you'd rather avoid. It's so much easier to distract yourself with whatever feels good and fun and pleasurable.
When I first got divorced, all I could do was sit in the funk of my emotions for awhile. Because whatever my heart was experiencing felt far too heavy and complicated to process and grow from right away. I didn't think I had the energy for inner-"WORK". I poured all of my energy into grieving, hurting and crumbling to the floor in tears. I was consumed with fear, anger and rage at levels I had never quite felt before. And as I felt rejection, betrayal and loss quickly erode my confidence and sense of purpose, I became genuinely scared about my future. When I stopped trusting myself and everyone else I felt increasingly isolated and alone. And because I felt so ungrounded mentally, emotionally, spiritually and financially, life felt like a game of survival I was never gonna win.
But I found two sources of genuine peace. I purged all of my toxic thoughts and emotions into a sacred container, my Indie Girl Diary. Stream-of-consciousness writing enabled me to admit, embrace and feel all the un-pretty emotions I was experiencing rather than deny or escape them. Journaling became my daily detox and point of clarity. And, even though I was a professional dancer performing up to eight shows per week, I also developed a love for pole dancing where I got to shed my hardened, defensive exterior and express my vulnerable, feminine and sensual sides. All of that movement expression was critical to preventing those massive doses of heavy emotions from stagnating and becoming a permanent part of my identity.
In hindsight, I realize that those two rituals (journaling and dancing) were actually part of the inner-work; because the work starts with SELF-AWARENESS and SELF-EXPRESSION. As my body, mind, and spirit started to feel lighter, I was ready for the deeper "work" of honestly reflecting on my destructive beliefs, questioning my choices, and recognizing my negative patterns of behavior. And now the ongoing work of TRANSFORMATION is maintaining a mindset of "possibility", making choices in alignment with my true self, and maintaining my rituals for self-awareness and self expression.
Indie Girl Diary: writing prompt
Inner-work has enabled me to admit that:
Indie Girl-Talk: let's chat!
What's distracting you from doing the inner-work necessary to transform your mindset, your choices, and your life?