- Are there soul suckers lurking around your life?
- Do you compromise your integrity to avoid conflict?
- Do you feel worthy of healthier relationships but don't know how to attract them?
- Are you able to recognize your valuable qualities, skills, and talents without external validation?
A person with integrity is impervious to the wiles of opportunistic soul-suckers who prey on those with valuable qualities, skills, and talents, but lack a strong sense of self-worth. People who gird themselves with integrity and stand firmly in their authenticity aren't easily manipulated, bullied, betrayed or taken advantage of. But integrity is impossible unless you know your worth and you're willing to do whatever necessary to protect it.
In my experience, it's often the most self-aware people that don't give themselves the credit they deserve. They're so busy trying to be better and do better that they fail to see the value of their strengths, which is fertile ground for soul suckers. And because their intention is to always live consciously, their expectation is that others are living with the same goal of greater self-awareness and personal growth. Sadly, that's not necessarily the case. So I think it's imperative to not just know your value, but to limit your exchange of energy to those who deserve it. And to only stay in relationships and situations where your worth is both recognized and respected.
So, when's the last time you took stock of your character? Are you aware of how people respond to your presence, or the things you say and do? Does your energy contribute positively to the world, or are you the person people try to avoid? Are YOU the soul-sucker? In my opinion, if you're honest, authentic, and trustworthy - that's valuable. If you're passionate, creative, and professional - that's valuable. If you're compassionate, generous, and kind-hearted - that's valuable. If you listen as much as you speak, give as much as you receive, and feel as much as you think - that's valuable too. And so is choosing to be open-minded and open-hearted before assuming, judging and criticizing others. I say, guard those assets! Protect yourself from soul-suckers who want you to believe you're worth less than what you truly deserve. Beware of people trying to convince you that you're not enough - exactly the way you are. It's just a power play of the weak-minded who've failed to invest their time and energy into developing the value of their own souls.
Who are the soul-suckers in your life? Describe how they effect your self-worth, your mood, your energy level, your creativity, and/or your productivity? What are your greatest qualities, skills, and talents? What kind of relationships and experiences do you deserve? How do you intend to change a current relationship or situation that's sucking your soul and why is that important to you?
And tell all your single sista-friends!