Turn-Ons: Made me grateful for my own strong moral code. A bit self-righteous, I know. But true.
Turn-Offs: The ending. (No spoilers here, though!)
Rate My Date:
- Not My Type
1 Night Stand
- In Love
- Happily Ever After
ADULTERY. Oh, that’s a definite trigger for me. The word itself has a way of summoning hurtful memories of lies, betrayal and infidelity in my former marriage. It’s like reliving the erosion of my spirit, self-worth, and confidence as a sensual being. It reminds me of the risks of vulnerability and raises doubt about my ability to assess someone’s character before trusting them implicitly with my physical and emotional well-being.
Even six years later, when I hear the word adultery, I still can’t fathom the level of emotional detachment it must take to carry on an illicit affair with one person while claiming to "love" or be “committed to” someone else. Who are they really trying to protect with their dishonesty? Are they trying to shield the one they "love" or simply trying to protect themselves from the repercussions of their actions? Can love and deceit coexist?
Anyway, when Paolo Coelho writes a book entitled “Adultery”, I have to read it because he's one of my favorite authors. I was curious to explore the mind of this character (albeit a fictional one) who seemingly “had it all” - a loving husband, amazing kids, successful journalism career and wealth. But, she was willing to sacrifice everything for an affair with a married man in which she admittedly felt objectified. To her, an affair seemed a much better solution to the monotony of her life than the anti-depressants her friends take. Besides, she was more stuck and apathetic than depressed. I felt absolutely no compassion for her plight whatsoever. However I could understand this deep feeling she expressed:
She wasn't denying her fortune. She simply needed to feel something. But it makes me wonder: Is it possible to address the lack of passion and adventure in your life and marriage without the adrenalin rush of lies, betrayal and infidelity? I’d like to believe so.