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<!--Generated by Squarespace V5 Site Server v5.13.159 (http://www.squarespace.com) on Sat, 25 May 2013 07:36:51 GMT--><feed xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/"><title>HOME</title><subtitle>HOME</subtitle><id>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/</id><link rel="alternate" type="application/xhtml+xml" href="http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/"/><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/atom.xml"/><updated>2013-05-13T21:24:47Z</updated><generator uri="http://five.squarespace.com/" version="Squarespace V5 Site Server v5.13.159 (http://www.squarespace.com)">Squarespace</generator><entry><title>Pg 63: Fifty Shades of Crazy</title><category term="Chapter 3: Post-Divorce Dating"/><category term="Fifty Shades of Grey"/><category term="OkCupid"/><category term="chemistry"/><category term="dating"/><category term="faking it"/><category term="on-line dating"/><category term="relationships"/><category term="sex"/><id>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2013/3/22/pg-63-fifty-shades-of-crazy.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2013/3/22/pg-63-fifty-shades-of-crazy.html"/><author><name>Indie Girl Keex</name></author><published>2013-03-22T18:15:47Z</published><updated>2013-03-22T18:15:47Z</updated><summary type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[After minimal hours of sleep and a strong cup of coffee by my side, I clocked in at my new full-time job: cultivating a love connection on OkCupid. It required the labor intensive tasks of sorting though and scrutinizing profiles and quiver connections to see if anyone peaked my interest or titillated my ego. I had to dig deep and answer personality and lifestyle questions, evaluate their level of importance in a romantic relationship and wait for OkCupid to do their mathematical magic and narrow down the best matches for me. Plus I had to respond (or not) to the e-mails flooding my in-box. Who knew that finding love in this densely populated city would require so much work!]]></summary></entry><entry><title>Pg 62: Fifty Shades of Possibility</title><category term="50 Shades of Grey"/><category term="Chapter 3: Post-Divorce Dating"/><category term="OkCupid"/><category term="dating"/><category term="divorce"/><category term="on-line dating"/><category term="pick-up lines"/><category term="sexual fantasies"/><category term="shibari"/><id>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/12/23/pg-62-fifty-shades-of-possibility.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/12/23/pg-62-fifty-shades-of-possibility.html"/><author><name>Indie Girl Keex</name></author><published>2012-12-23T05:40:01Z</published><updated>2012-12-23T05:40:01Z</updated><summary type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[In my experience, on-line dating seems to be populated with guys who aren't really looking for a “love” connection, even if they claim to be. What they’re really looking for is sex. But who can blame them? They’ve got an entire database of equally desperate and horny women ready to raise their skirts at the mere flattery of a virtual wink. What kinda virile dude would forsake the opportunity to get-off on the regular while generating impressive stories about their latest sexual conquests, albeit embellished and unsubstantiated? Sadly, on-line dating has become a total disservice to these types of dudes who unknowingly suffer from a misguided sense of sexual prowess and entitlement issues when it comes to women, love and dating. It’s gotten to the point that guys with bare-chested, bathroom mirror photos and a completely empty profile page would send this concise pick-up line to my in-box:]]></summary></entry><entry><title>Pg 61: On to the Next Dude...</title><category term="Chapter 3: Post-Divorce Dating"/><category term="OkCupid"/><category term="dating"/><category term="divorce"/><category term="first date"/><category term="on-line dating"/><category term="sex"/><id>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/12/21/pg-61-on-to-the-next-dude.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/12/21/pg-61-on-to-the-next-dude.html"/><author><name>Indie Girl Keex</name></author><published>2012-12-21T19:50:34Z</published><updated>2012-12-21T19:50:34Z</updated><summary type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[At this point, I didn’t care if I’d be meeting him for the first time dressed in some matchy-matchy Lululemon get-up, with my hair in a ponytail and still sweating from my Redcord class. Oh, I’d be sure to look “effortlessly cute”, mind you, but I wasn’t gonna invest any real time and energy in trying to impress my “imaginary boyfriend” with a fab outfit and a cute hairdo. Nope, I planned on being just cute enough to make him curious. And more importantly, sick in the belly for messing up and missing out on this IndieGirl. 'Cause I’ll admit that, when he unexpectedly returned to my life with an e-mail apology and some Hendrix lyrics, I felt like I kinda had the upper hand in our so-called relationship. Yep, that one e-mail gave me the sweet taste of power and I went from an “evolved” IndieGirl to a straight up “tease.”]]></summary></entry><entry><title>Pg 60: Return of the Imaginary Boyfriend</title><category term="Chapter 3: Post-Divorce Dating"/><category term="IndieGirlSpirit"/><category term="OkCupid"/><category term="Redcord"/><category term="dating"/><category term="emotional evolution"/><category term="imaginary boyfriend"/><category term="on-line dating"/><category term="spiritual evolution"/><id>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/12/6/pg-60-return-of-the-imaginary-boyfriend.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/12/6/pg-60-return-of-the-imaginary-boyfriend.html"/><author><name>Indie Girl Keex</name></author><published>2012-12-06T21:43:32Z</published><updated>2012-12-06T21:43:32Z</updated><summary type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[So, where was this great new love or series of lovers to be found? I swear I was keeping my eyes, heart and mind open to possibility. I even reinvigorated my OkCupid profile and decided to be less picky. Even if a guy didn’t seem my type physically, I gave him bonus points for similar interests plus good grammar and spelling. Then maybe, just maybe, I could overlook the man boobs and receding hairlines. While I was getting lots of ego-boosting on-line attention, there was still no love connection. Had the Universe forsaken me? Had it disregarded my emotional and spiritual evolution? My IndieGirlSpirit? 

And then, this arrived in my in-box...  

And then, this arrived in my in-box...]]></summary></entry><entry><title>Pg 59: Return of the EX</title><category term="Brooklyn"/><category term="Chapter 3: Post-Divorce Dating"/><category term="closure"/><category term="divorce"/><category term="ex"/><category term="ex-husband"/><category term="healing"/><category term="love"/><category term="marriage"/><category term="memories"/><category term="starting over"/><id>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/9/4/pg-59-return-of-the-ex.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/9/4/pg-59-return-of-the-ex.html"/><author><name>Indie Girl Keex</name></author><published>2012-09-04T22:52:28Z</published><updated>2012-09-04T22:52:28Z</updated><summary type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[The fact that my EX (yes, my EX-husband) breezed in and out of the city recently and we enjoyed conversation over lunch seems almost inconsequential. It's only real relevance was the fact that it validated my possession of a fully healed and optimally functioning heart that is open to loving and being loved. Closure complete. It's crazy how, even in person, I felt absolutely nothing for him. Neither negative nor positive. Only weird flashbacks to a time when we used to sit across the table gazing deeply into each other's eyes with a love that seemed to penetrate as far deeply as past lifetimes. But that day, a surface gaze was sufficient.]]></summary></entry><entry><title>Pg 58: Mid-Life Sex Crisis</title><category term="Chapter 3: Post-Divorce Dating"/><category term="cougar"/><category term="dating"/><category term="desperate"/><category term="horny"/><category term="mid-life crisis"/><category term="on-line dating"/><category term="sex"/><category term="single"/><id>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/7/17/pg-58-mid-life-sex-crisis.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/7/17/pg-58-mid-life-sex-crisis.html"/><author><name>Indie Girl Keex</name></author><published>2012-07-18T01:42:28Z</published><updated>2012-07-18T01:42:28Z</updated><summary type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[I think I'm having a mid-life SEX crisis!  I'm forty-two years old, divorced and haven't had anything other than a self-induced orgasm in four years. I can't believe it myself! Never in a million, gazillion years would I have predicted this! How is this my life? Granted, Post Marital Stress Disorder (PMSD) is partially to blame. It rendered me sexually apathetic for awhile and suspect of anyone attempting to make friendly eye contact, let alone flirt or get busy.  But things have changed.  I've changed.  And in my best karaoke version of India.Arie, "I Am Ready For Love". Only thing is, I'm way out of practice in the art of flirting and dating. Like, way out of practice! And I can't seem to figure out what I'm doing wrong.  But I'm slowly starting to figure out that there just might be a thin line between "selective" and "settling".]]></summary></entry><entry><title>Pg 57: Not So Broken-Hearted Drama Queen</title><category term="Chapter 3: Post-Divorce Dating"/><category term="OkCupid"/><category term="breakup"/><category term="broken-hearted"/><category term="dating"/><category term="drama queen"/><category term="on-line dating"/><id>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/6/17/pg-57-not-so-broken-hearted-drama-queen.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/6/17/pg-57-not-so-broken-hearted-drama-queen.html"/><author><name>Indie Girl Keex</name></author><published>2012-06-17T20:17:11Z</published><updated>2012-06-17T20:17:11Z</updated><summary type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[Okay, Keex, enough of the DRAMA!  So what if OkCupid dude disappeared like poof?  And so what if his dating profile is still active minus the two photos which he curiously deleted?  And who cares if, after test driving me for two months, he possibly picked a different chick but still prowls on the down low in case he wants to upgrade?

In the end, I was disappointed but not devastated.  And certainly not disappointed enough to warrant the amount of wine, chocolate and R&B slow jams I (over)indulged in during the entire weekend I spent unexpectedly alone. After all, we were basically just pen pals and phone buddies.  Our sudden "break-up" didn't really require any deep emotional healing.  I simply had to recover from the embarrassment of getting all excited about a man I'd never met and the fact that my dating life was put on hold just when I thought I was gettin' my groove back.]]></summary></entry><entry><title>Pg 56: My Imaginary Boyfriend</title><category term="Chapter 3: Post-Divorce Dating"/><category term="Dwayne Johnson"/><category term="OkCupid"/><category term="boyfriend"/><category term="dissociative disorder"/><category term="horny"/><category term="on-line dating"/><id>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/4/29/pg-56-my-imaginary-boyfriend.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/4/29/pg-56-my-imaginary-boyfriend.html"/><author><name>Indie Girl Keex</name></author><published>2012-04-29T22:35:37Z</published><updated>2012-04-29T22:35:37Z</updated><summary type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[I'm a sucker for suspense.  Just not when it comes to my love life.  Or at least my attempt at one.  But just my luck, I've been dangling in suspenseful limbo for almost two months since meeting this dude on OkCupid. I have no idea how our profiles even crossed paths 'cause I was specifically clear with Cupid that he aim his arrows strictly within the five boroughs.  And even still, I'm partial to Manhattan and Brooklyn.  So, how I ended up connecting with and crushing on a dude 4.5 hours away by bus (I checked) is beyond me!  

This guy is literally the only guy I've responded to on OkCupid since joining in February.  (Well, except for the married doctor.  And that was before I realized he was married.) In fact, this is one of the few guys that didn't repulse me his no-game-havin', cocky, playa-playa mentality.]]></summary></entry><entry><title>Pg 55: Hypothetical Sex Addict</title><category term="Babeland"/><category term="Chapter 3: Post-Divorce Dating"/><category term="Javier Bardem"/><category term="OkCupid"/><category term="The Rock"/><category term="celibate"/><category term="dating"/><category term="friends with benefits"/><category term="sex"/><category term="sexless"/><category term="single"/><id>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/3/30/pg-55-hypothetical-sex-addict.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/3/30/pg-55-hypothetical-sex-addict.html"/><author><name>Indie Girl Keex</name></author><published>2012-03-30T21:43:18Z</published><updated>2012-03-30T21:43:18Z</updated><summary type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[As if my single and celibate self wasn't already consumed with enough thoughts of sex.  But since availing myself to the world of dating, copulation feels imminent and fantasy has begun disrupting my general productivity.  So has a discreet little vibrating toy I picked up at Babeland.  I never realized how crippling stifled sexual desire could be.  In fact, I can't even remember the last time I've ever experienced a sexual void so deep that I lost sleep over it. Celibacy has turned me into an insomniac!  Besides that, it's got me walking around wistfully with baby-making music like Jodeci crooning in my ears while fantasizing about men, women, movie stars and random people on the subway.]]></summary></entry><entry><title>Pg 54: Does Mr. Right Exist?</title><category term="Chapter 3: Post-Divorce Dating"/><category term="Mr. Right"/><category term="dating"/><category term="divorce"/><category term="ego"/><category term="love"/><category term="personal strength"/><category term="relationships"/><id>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/3/18/pg-54-does-mr-right-exist.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/3/18/pg-54-does-mr-right-exist.html"/><author><name>Indie Girl Keex</name></author><published>2012-03-18T18:42:19Z</published><updated>2012-03-18T18:42:19Z</updated><summary type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[I don't know if it's age and maturity or shear fear, but I realize that I'm far more cautious in my approach to dating than I was in my twenties.  That was the last time I was single.  Back then I was so easily lured by looks and raw physical attraction that I was pretty reckless with my heart and my body; not thinking of the emotional consequences of giving too much or giving it up too quickly to someone not worthy of me.  It's as if I didn't know my value beyond my body or beyond pleasing and appeasing someone physically and emotionally. I never really thought about what I ultimately wanted from a guy or out of a relationship besides feeling... simply wanted.]]></summary></entry></feed>