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<!--Generated by Squarespace Site Server v5.11.81 (http://www.squarespace.com/) on Wed, 30 May 2012 05:16:14 GMT--><rss xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:wfw="http://wellformedweb.org/CommentAPI/" xmlns:itunes="http://www.itunes.com/dtds/podcast-1.0.dtd" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" version="2.0"><channel><title>Recent Diary Pages</title><link>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/</link><description></description><lastBuildDate>Wed, 09 May 2012 22:11:15 +0000</lastBuildDate><copyright>Indie Girl Love Adventures 2010</copyright><language>en-US</language><generator>Squarespace Site Server v5.11.81 (http://www.squarespace.com/)</generator><item><title>Pg 56: My Imaginary Boyfriend</title><category>Chapter 3: Post-Divorce Dating</category><category>Dwayne Johnson</category><category>OkCupid</category><category>boyfriend</category><category>dissociative disorder</category><category>horny</category><category>on-line dating</category><dc:creator>Indie Girl Keex</dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 29 Apr 2012 22:35:37 +0000</pubDate><link>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/4/29/pg-56-my-imaginary-boyfriend.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">815920:9590448:16057291</guid><description><![CDATA[I'm a sucker for suspense.  Just not when it comes to my love life.  Or at least my attempt at one.  But just my luck, I've been dangling in suspenseful limbo for almost two months since meeting this dude on OkCupid. I have no idea how our profiles even crossed paths 'cause I was specifically clear with Cupid that he aim his arrows strictly within the five boroughs.  And even still, I'm partial to Manhattan and Brooklyn.  So, how I ended up connecting with and crushing on a dude 4.5 hours away by bus (I checked) is beyond me!  

This guy is literally the only guy I've responded to on OkCupid since joining in February.  (Well, except for the married doctor.  And that was before I realized he was married.) In fact, this is one of the few guys that didn't repulse me his no-game-havin', cocky, playa-playa mentality.]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/rss-comments-entry-16057291.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Pg 55: Hypothetical Sex Addict</title><category>Babeland</category><category>Chapter 3: Post-Divorce Dating</category><category>Javier Bardem</category><category>OkCupid</category><category>The Rock</category><category>celibate</category><category>dating</category><category>friends with benefits</category><category>sex</category><category>sexless</category><category>single</category><dc:creator>Indie Girl Keex</dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 30 Mar 2012 21:43:18 +0000</pubDate><link>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/3/30/pg-55-hypothetical-sex-addict.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">815920:9590448:15660256</guid><description><![CDATA[As if my single and celibate self wasn't already consumed with enough thoughts of sex.  But since availing myself to the world of dating, copulation feels imminent and fantasy has begun disrupting my general productivity.  So has a discreet little vibrating toy I picked up at Babeland.  I never realized how crippling stifled sexual desire could be.  In fact, I can't even remember the last time I've ever experienced a sexual void so deep that I lost sleep over it. Celibacy has turned me into an insomniac!  Besides that, it's got me walking around wistfully with baby-making music like Jodeci crooning in my ears while fantasizing about men, women, movie stars and random people on the subway.]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/rss-comments-entry-15660256.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Pg 54: Does Mr. Right Exist?</title><category>Chapter 3: Post-Divorce Dating</category><category>Mr. Right</category><category>dating</category><category>divorce</category><category>ego</category><category>love</category><category>personal strength</category><category>relationships</category><dc:creator>Indie Girl Keex</dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 18 Mar 2012 18:42:19 +0000</pubDate><link>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/3/18/pg-54-does-mr-right-exist.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">815920:9590448:15482586</guid><description><![CDATA[I don't know if it's age and maturity or shear fear, but I realize that I'm far more cautious in my approach to dating than I was in my twenties.  That was the last time I was single.  Back then I was so easily lured by looks and raw physical attraction that I was pretty reckless with my heart and my body; not thinking of the emotional consequences of giving too much or giving it up too quickly to someone not worthy of me.  It's as if I didn't know my value beyond my body or beyond pleasing and appeasing someone physically and emotionally. I never really thought about what I ultimately wanted from a guy or out of a relationship besides feeling... simply wanted.]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/rss-comments-entry-15482586.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Pg 53: OkCupid Ego Boost</title><category>Chapter 3: Post-Divorce Dating</category><category>Match.com</category><category>OkCupid</category><category>dating</category><category>love</category><category>on-line dating</category><dc:creator>Indie Girl Keex</dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 23 Feb 2012 18:51:35 +0000</pubDate><link>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/2/23/pg-53-okcupid-ego-boost.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">815920:9590448:15159601</guid><description><![CDATA[Drunk with insomnia and perhaps better judgment, I took the plunge and dove headfirst into the 21st century trend of on-line dating. For someone who hasn't even been on a date in ten years, this was a completely new and bizarre approach to flirting, dating and perhaps finding a love connection. My first instinct was to set up radically different on-line dating profiles on various sites; each representing just a part of my multi-faceted Gemini personality. That way, I could see which side of Keex is the man magnet based on the number of winks, drinks and quiver matches.]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/rss-comments-entry-15159601.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Pg 52: Am I Ready For Cupid?</title><category>Chapter 3: Post-Divorce Dating</category><category>betrayal</category><category>cheating</category><category>cupid</category><category>dating</category><category>divorce</category><category>love</category><category>marriage</category><dc:creator>Indie Girl Keex</dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 12 Feb 2012 18:12:58 +0000</pubDate><link>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/2/12/pg-52-am-i-ready-for-cupid.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">815920:9590448:14999003</guid><description><![CDATA[So, now that I'm officially divorced (three years later) and still dealing with the emotional, legal and financial ramifications, I find myself questioning my belief in marriage.  Divorce has been a big reality check.  It's reminded me that, as much as my marriage was a public declaration of my love and commitment to my EX, it was just as much a business deal.  We merged bank accounts, built assets and created joint plans for our future together.  Plus, I proudly (& legally) relinquished my maiden name - my identity since birth - and added the title of "Mrs" to my EX's last name.]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/rss-comments-entry-14999003.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Pg 51: Bittersweet Closure</title><category>Chapter 2: Sexual Sobriety</category><category>at last</category><category>closure</category><category>commitment</category><category>communication</category><category>divorce</category><category>love</category><category>marriage</category><category>now and forever</category><dc:creator>Indie Girl Keex</dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 30 Jan 2012 23:05:58 +0000</pubDate><link>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/1/30/pg-51-bittersweet-closure.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">815920:9590448:14797666</guid><description><![CDATA[I thought closure would mean having an in-your-face, last word confrontation with my EX.  I anticipated full-on drama with emphatic twisty-neck and pointy-finger-style; enumerating all the ways he screwed up and screwed me over.  I planned to diminish his ego until he was nothing but a cowering piece of man.  Of course, that's not really my style nor my personality, but it sure did feel empowering to imagine myself defending my own honor like the hardcore bitch I imagine.  You see, not many people know about my superhero alter-ego who, beyond powers of flight and teleportation, has the power to transform cheaters into mere eunichs; rendering them completely useless and undesirable for the rest of their lives.  Super-Keex is dope like that!]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/rss-comments-entry-14797666.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Pg 50: Divorce is For Failures</title><category>Chapter 2: Sexual Sobriety</category><category>divorce</category><category>ex-husband</category><category>love</category><category>marriage</category><category>separation</category><dc:creator>Indie Girl Keex</dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 15 Jan 2012 21:54:37 +0000</pubDate><link>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2012/1/15/pg-50-divorce-is-for-failures.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">815920:9590448:14593126</guid><description><![CDATA[You know what?  I was a catch when I met my EX, damn it! I was full of energy, sense of purpose, self-love and a zest for life.  I had dreams, goals, aspirations and was eager to share my life with him.  I loved the idea of happiness and success becoming a joint project. And I couldn't wait to co-create a life together in which we both thrived personally and professionally while constantly evolving into better versions of ourselves. 

Unfortunately, when I made that bold move cross-country to marry the love of my life, it was as if I had traveled through a time warp that erased the memory of what I needed to maintain that personal strength.]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/rss-comments-entry-14593126.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Pg 49: From Sucker to Slut</title><category>2nd chakra</category><category>Chapter 2: Sexual Sobriety</category><category>TThe Rock</category><category>cheating</category><category>ex-boyfriend</category><category>other woman</category><category>self-doubt</category><category>self-worth</category><category>sex</category><category>shame</category><category>slut</category><dc:creator>Indie Girl Keex</dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 18 Dec 2011 16:06:16 +0000</pubDate><link>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2011/12/18/pg-49-from-sucker-to-slut.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">815920:9590448:14162460</guid><description><![CDATA[And that's the dude I turned The Rock down for.  

But rather than wallowing in misery and regret, I became a slut. Not a slut in the numerical sense, though. Let's just say, I lost any sort of cautionary discretion when it came to sleeping with someone before really getting to know them.  Yes, even less discretion than cohabiting with someone within weeks of meeting.  Put it this way: if I knew your name and you made me "tingle"... I was down.  Being a slut wasn't a conscious decision, mind you. It just happened. All those self-help books I delved into after leaving my EX-BF convinced me to honor the needs of my "pleasure center" aka the second chakra. And so I did... with insurmountable pleasure.]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/rss-comments-entry-14162460.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Pg 48: Sucker for Love</title><category>Chapter 2: Sexual Sobriety</category><category>Jehovah's Witness</category><category>dating</category><category>ex-boyfriend</category><category>independence</category><category>marriage</category><category>rose colored glasses</category><category>sex</category><dc:creator>Indie Girl Keex</dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 09 Nov 2011 19:30:36 +0000</pubDate><link>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2011/11/9/pg-48-sucker-for-love.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">815920:9590448:13657677</guid><description><![CDATA[What a sobering thought to realize I might not have been the catch I thought I was. Especially since, by the time I met my husband, I was thirty years old and felt damn good about the person I had become.  It was just seven years earlier I dared exercise my independence and free-will by mustering up the courage to move to NYC.  It wasn’t the idea of being on my own for the first time nor living in NYC that seemed daunting, but the reaction I’d get from my family and congregation for quitting my religion cold turkey and pursuing my “worldly” ambitions.  I’d been raised to believe that, without the safety and structure of their ideals, I'd hit rock bottom. Or, as my mom would put it, I'd "fall off the deep end".  What they didn’t realize, though, was that I already felt stuck in a bottomless pit.]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/rss-comments-entry-13657677.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Pg 47: Falling In Love With Potential</title><category>Chapter 2: Sexual Sobriety</category><category>co-dependency. addiction</category><category>divorce</category><category>ex-husband</category><category>falling in love</category><category>marriage</category><category>relationships</category><dc:creator>Indie Girl Keex</dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 03 Nov 2011 18:34:18 +0000</pubDate><link>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/2011/11/3/pg-47-falling-in-love-with-potential.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">815920:9590448:13582824</guid><description><![CDATA[Social ineptitude resulted in lots of alone time where I sometimes nurtured my resentment, fears and love of red wine during severe bouts of single-itis. But there were also those absolutely IndieGirl-icious periods when I experienced many an "AHA!" moment and great epiphany. During both the bleak and bright times I definitely discovered patterns of behavior that I wanted to change, if only I knew how.  Aside from my newly acquired social awkwardness, I wanted to somehow improve my ability to choose the right man; whether he be just a play thang or future significant other.  I needed to figure out WHY I kept attracting the same types of people and situations into my life? I mean, how do you control attraction or who you fall in love with? Until I could figure that shit out and how to start trusting myself and others, I knew I wasn't ready for my first post-marriage fling or serious relationship, for that matter.]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://indiegirlloveadventures.com/recent-pages/rss-comments-entry-13582824.xml</wfw:commentRss></item></channel></rss>
